You’re motivated, you’ve read all the self help books, you know what you “should” be doing, but you still feel stuck. So why does it feel like you’re going in circles?
Feeling stuck isn’t about not having goals, Its about feeling disconnected from yourself.
This happens when:
- You’re chasing what you think you should want, not what aligns with you.
- You’re caught in overthinking & fear, rather than taking aligned action.
- You’re burned out from trying to force things instead of flowing with them.
The Missing Piece: Alignment over Hustle
Many people think they need to “push through” feeling stuck by working harder or forcing motivation. But true motivation comes from alignment with what you’re working on, not struggle.
Now what is Alignment? Alignment means living in harmony with your goals, values & desires. When your actions naturally flow, instead of feeling forced. A great example of this is when many young adults are told “what” they should be doing as a career. Be a doctor! A lawyer! Run the family company! Its whats best for you. Compared to uncovering work that is truly aligned with their wants & needs in life. Something that should make you feel excited waking up, that challenges you but is rewarding as it pushes you closer to who you want to be and the life you want to create.
When you’re out of alignment, you’ll often feel lost, uninspired & burnt out. It’s a quick path to feeling exhausted and constantly overwhelmed. You’ll keep trying new things to make it work, but ultimately will be struggling with decision-fatigue & self-doubt. The last thing you want to do, is build the life others have chose for you, or simply a life you never wanted in the first place. Yet this is a path many people choose not to take, its a difficult road filled with challenges that push your growth & can leave you uncomfortable for the walls you’ll be breaking down.
If your question is why do i feel stuck, as yourself this. Can I sacrifice my comfort, for the life i’ve always wanted? to make my dreams come true? be honest for your own sake.
How to Realign Yourself
Step 1: Why do I feel stuck?
You need to get clear on whats truly yours compared to what you think “is best” based on external projections from others.
Ask yourself: Are you chasing someone else’s version of success?
Many of us build our lives on external expectations of what we “should be doing” instead of our true inner desires. Or we think that if we just follow the same path as someone else did it’ll be easy! It’s what they did. Without realizing that everyone does everything quite differently, timelines are different, how you achieve it is different, you have different motivation and so on. Make it yours.
Heres a quick journaling practice:
- What parts of my life feel like they’re being lived for someone else?
- Where in my life do I feel drained and what might that be telling me?
- If no one could judge me, what would I be doing differently right now?
- What would I pursue if I knew success was guaranteed?
- What version of me feels most alive and what’s stopping me from being them daily?
Step 2: Align your Actions with Energy
Once you know what you want, the next step is to act as if you’re already that person.
Try doing this:
- Instead of “I wish I could be healthier,” → Ask “How does the healthiest version of me act today?”
- Instead of “I want to be successful,” → Ask “What daily habits would my successful self already have?”
Shifting your identify first, allows you to become that person. This will lead you to the actions they… or you will be taking. This will create results quicker than trying to force change.
Step 3: Release the Resistance thats Holding You Back
Identify all the fears you may have, the challenges that may arise, or all the limiting beliefs that are telling you NOT to try living the life you deserve. It will be hard! Embarrassing! I don’t have the skills! What will my family think? My friends think? sound familiar?
Once you can identify your limiting beliefs, you can reverse engineer them to serve you, alongside giving you an anchor on what to do and how to do it. Often you will be met with uncomfortable thoughts and the “unknown” of what will come.
If you identified for example “I don’t know how to be a public speaker, I have stage fright!” you can reframe it as “I’m still growing and will learn the necessary skills of public speaking, it will be challenging but I can do it”. Reframing it to a neutral or positive statement only serves the truth. Anything negative is a judgement that comes from the ego, anything that says it how it is within the mind & important without the negative framing, is from YOU!
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If this resonates with you, it’s because you’re meant for more. The only thing missing is alignment. Hopefully I helped answer your question of “Why do I feel stuck”
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